Behaviour - The Paramount Need
The ultimate test of Sahaj Marg and our capacity to
use Sahaj Marg, is not in balanced behaviour and all these
things, but whether we are able to balance the inner with
the outer and create a person who inside and out is the same.
This hiatus between the inside and outside is causing too much anguish
to many people who trust the situation, who trust the system, who trust
the Master, and yet say, "What is it doing for these people? This man
has been practicing for twenty years. This woman has been practicing for
fifteen years. All right, because I know the Master and He is a truthful
person, I accept what He says about the inner self, but what about the external?
The husband is still beating the wife after 20 years of sadhana,
he is misbehaving, he is angry, he throws things around, he beats his children.
There is no change."
The children say "we are not bothered about the inside.
That is his or her problem. If my mother is in Sahaj Marg,
it is for her spiritual evolution. Granted that she is having
it, but I as a child of the family, expect some change in
my mother and some change in my father, but if they are
still going to hammer each other, and hammer me in the bargain,
what is Sahaj Marg doing really for us?"
Once the children revolt against this system because they
don't see any apparent change in their parents, we have
lost potential abhyasis and we have lost the ability to
serve the next generation. It is very important that those
of you who are parents should remember that love is to be
also shown in your behaviour. When we speak of love, we
want it expressed in some perceptible, tangible form, at
least in changed behaviour, in more affection, in more under-
standing. And when the parents don't realise this, the responsibility
that they have to their children, to show themselves as
really transformed persons, not only inside but outside,
they are betraying the trust of the younger generation in
them.
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