Some Important Points

• Mould your living like a waterfowl. When it comes out of the water, its wings are dry.
  
• One should engage oneself in the care and upbringing of the children in such a way that it does not affect one's heart, and their love should not result in pain.
  
• One should develop such relations with the people in the neighbourhood that they would seem to be one's own, and they in turn should consider him so. The same principle should hold good in the case of friends.
  
• Connections with relatives should be established in such a way that the inner bond should appear severed. However, one should be a partner in their joys and sorrows This should be with everybody.
  
• Refrain from entering into monetary transactions. When they are in dire need, financial help should be given to the extent that one does not feel sorry if the money is not returned, and relations are not strained.
  
• One should take service only to the extent that one is able to requite. Force of circumstances is a different matter.
  
• One should lead a simple and selfless life.
  

Thus Grihastha ashram is not a bar in gaining the real aim of life. I think this is the best ashram in which higher approach is easily possible. I am a grihastha, and my Master was also one. I assure you that a perfect saint may be found in this ashram alone. We perform our duties, and remember Him as Ultimate Reality.