Conversations with Daaji, Part 10, January 2017
New Jersey & New York
In this bulletin, we share with you some snippets from the last part of Daaji’s stay in the ashram at Monroe. We look forward to receiving your comments and feedback on the bulletin at sahajsandesh@srcm.org. 
Tavajjo: deeper meaning
In regular usage, tavajjo means ‘attention’. In a conversational context, an example could be something like, “I am speaking to you, so please pay attention.”
In Urdu, the word used for transmission is also tavajjo. It has a much deeper meaning.
One time, I was travelling on a train and I met a Moulavi Saheb. We struck up a conversation. During the chat he told me “Tavajjo ko matlab hain ke aisa koi buzurg aadmi mil jaaye jinki nazar app pe pad gayi to aap unse nazar nahin hatha sakte,” meaning “Tavajjo is something that happens when the benevolent gaze of a Master falls on the student and the student cannot move his eyes from the teacher. The inner eye stays on Him. He holds you tightly with his love.”
The first time I went to Shahjahanpur to meet Babuji Maharaj, I wept all the way on the way back on the train. I did not know what had gripped me, but tears just kept rolling down my face. It was a brief visit and I hardly spent any one-on-one time with him. Such was the magic. I was moved like never before. Where would you find someone like him today?
When you are speaking to someone it draws your attention. When someone looks at you, their eyes are talking to you. When some thoughts are passed mentally because of your mood they also carry a message.
Similarly, in spirituality there is a certain body language, disposition and it evokes some condition in you. That’s another level of attention. When They look at you, you feel it. It stirs your heart, your soul. When two individuals are not together, but one is thinking of the other person in admiration, with respect, whatever you like to inculcate can be sent. The other person should be receiving, otherwise the magic doesn’t happen. Both have to be in tune. Beloved Babuji had composed a beautiful bhajan to express this sentiment where he said, “There is no limit in your kingdom, your heart is ever willing to give, the problem is with my pocket – it is too small. (Jholi hi meri tang hain).
God and Master: the most mysterious line in our prayer
One of the most mysterious sentences in our prayer is “Thou art the only God and Power …” Have you thought about this line? Power and God are separate.
The prayer is addressed to the Master as “Thou art the only God and Power …”.
So, when one sees the Ultimate in the form of the Master, then it’s a different equation in one’s journey. It should be heartfelt. Until then there is a struggle. Would you think Master or Babuji would have said, “Okay, it’s to me that you are praying”? No! How arrogant would that be?
It is for us to realize that our prayer is addressed to somebody who represents both God and Power.
You can relate this to another statement of Babuji Maharaj: “God may be great but power is mine”. Now, with what confidence he was speaking! When you read all the intercommunications by Lord Krishna and others in Babuji’s Autobiography – “I give you this, and I give you that ...”, it makes sense. He had the wealth of the Whole with him.
Now look at this scenario from the perspective of the points we traverse during the yatra. Read the description of the 10th point in Towards Infinity. After the 10th point there is no rule of the Lord. Here something else comes into the picture. From the 11th point you are going towards what created the Creator.
We can also look at this state from the standpoint of qualities that we need to develop. When you have absolutely dissolved yourself, your arrogance is gone, your ego has been annihilated, and then only you can reach this state. You become something like a two-day old baby – you are absolutely helpless. Somebody else has to look after you. Even the desire for growth is gone. It happens naturally. The mother feeds and the baby grows. Who is going to feed you there? You have no desire left in you to grow even spiritually. You are happy and content. This is where the Master comes, and lifts you up and carries you there. In order for Him to be drawn towards you, you must become egoless.
Often abhyasis are given a taste of a higher condition by placing them on a higher level of consciousness. This is the mercy of the Great Master. We MUST remember that we have been given a lease of occupying a certain station until we make it our own. The key is to convert the lease into ownership and further make ourselves deserving of another lease in yet another higher station. If the first lease is not well-utilized, honoured and respected, how can we expect either the renewal or another lease in a better piece of real estate? The initial lease MUST not be taken as ownership. So, if we look at things from this angle, the freedom that we enjoy with the given response-ability must be taken to the next level, by cultivating this sense of ownership.
Only when we own something – whether a business or a car or a house – do we tend to become more responsible. Otherwise, why worry about someone else’s business or house affairs?
Imagine a centre with three preceptors, where there is lack of communication and cooperation. Perhaps most of you need not even imagine! Do you think such individuals can ever progress? Individuals who are given greater response-ability are able to do more. If you fail in your responses, your abilities will be under-utilized, and what we cannot use we risk losing. Actually, I am deliberately trying to sound mild.
If you see our culture, if you analyze our culture, most people are competing. Who is near the Master? Who rubs shoulders with him? The attention has gone into a different direction. What do we do? We go on blowing our trumpet: “I have done this, I have done that, I can do this, I could have done that.” Then who will look at you? That is the reason why there is hardly anyone who has crossed Satyapad in the last 30 years. IT HAD BETTER CHANGE.
Q: At this point it is love for the Master.
Daaji: No. This idea of ‘love for’ drops off. You love God because you cannot help but love him. You love the trees, the animals and even your enemies. In fact, you will not see any person as an enemy. You become love personified. You are no longer loving for a reason.
Q: So how will this affect my day-to-day affairs?
Daaji: Nothing needs to change! When I am not the doer, I allow the Lord to work through me and the results of it, good or bad, are His. Through meditation this state must come to us naturally. If we force it, then it will be artificial. We should crave for this state.
Q: How do I know when I am humble?
Daaji: You will never know it. If you think you are humble, that itself blows it. It is like thinking, “I am humbler than you.” That’s ego! When you truly have humility you will never know that you have it. You will not even care about it. It is like when you love you don’t know, but when you don’t love you will certainly know it. To love is natural. Not to love is unnatural. ‘Mine’-ness is a problem.
From the desk of Daaji
In this section we share with you excerpts of emails sent by Daaji to abhyasis in various parts of the globe.
Context
During the last few weeks of his stay, Daaji was speaking to several abhyasis about interpersonal relationships. He also addressed several emails on this topic. Here we bring you a reply to an email where an abhyasi was seeking counsel from Daaji.
Daaji’s reply, 18th January 2017
Dear brother,
Selection of a possible life partner is not simple. We continuously go on changing our destiny based on our endless actions and thoughts. The life partner’s views, let us not exclude ourselves from this, often change. This creates friction. And marriages within the Mission are not an automatic exception to friction.
Please refer to my suggestions on relationships in the book Designing Destiny. A similar article on relationships was also published in Heartfulness Magazine, Issue 2, 2015, where we discuss Entropy in Human Relationships.
Though the marriages are arranged and performed with good intentions, abhyasis spoil the marriages and bring a bad name to the Mission. This is not a reflection on you. Not at all.
I have decided NOT to recommend anyone for marriage. However, don’t be disheartened. If you like someone or your family likes someone, I will be happy to solemnize your wedding.
With Prayers to Beloved Master for His love and blessings.
Kamlesh
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